FAILING RELATIONSHIP

SIGNS OF A FAILING RELATIONSHIP

By Maritim Kipngetich

Many people may not easily notice a failed relationship even if the signs of bringing it to a halt are so obvious that one is required to just say the words “enough is enough”.

Well, may be some people are just comfortable when they are told some words by their partners or given a lame excuse about certain romantic trip they would want to go.

Noticing these signs of failed relationship is not tantamount to rocket science. It is easy to notice and one does not need to be a professor in love affairs!

Here are some of the signs that one may use to tell that relationship one is engaging in is not heading to a right direction. Some may be genuine and may indicate failure in a relationship and some, depending on the partners, may show interlude period or meditation.

1.      Time of communication becomes minimal

Communication is a key thing for a relationship to remain lively. If you start calling your partner and he or she fails to pick or you see delivery report in the text you sent and no reply, start being suspicious. If you failed to get a genuine reason why your call was not picked or why your text was responded to after some hours, kindly interrogate your partner seriously and suggest for her to tell you where the problem may be. This may salvage your relationship.

2.      Lame excuse for a vacation, picnic or romantic trip

Nothing can tie a more civilised relationship than going for a vacation, picnic or a romantic trip. This is the time you talk about many things concerning your relationship. At this moment, you will have an open mind and your partner is free to tell you almost everything. If you organise these events and you realise your partner is taking them reluctantly and not being free to go with you, think twice.

3.      Prefers meeting people they claim to be “friends” to meeting you

When your partner tells you they are going to meet a friend in town and they cannot tell you who that friend is only you to realise later that whoever they went to meet was of their opposite sex, please tell her straight about it and this may solve the problem.

4.      Texting messages or receiving calls of someone while you are together during odd hours

This is a clear indication that your relationship is not heading to a right direction and someone is likely to ruin it. One may request to receive a call outside or in a safe distance away from you: this may not be a genuine call and if possible, question it.

5.      Being in hurry every moment you meet

This is stupendously hurting and one is required to act upon it urgently. You know very well that one is not committed elsewhere at that moment and one is telling you, you should call your meeting a day. This shows that one is not comfortable being with you.

6.      Continuous quarrel on petty issues

This is one other sign that shows that your relationship is fading away. Take note of this and try to envisage its implications. It may be a weapon that is being used by your partner to tell you, it is time to halt it.